Blog for
Chris Lauzon - Therapist, LICSW

What if your future self could send you a message today? Not a warning, not a regret—but a vision. A clear, inspiring glimpse into the life you could be living. What would it say? What would it show? This is where the Tool of Self-Awareness becomes invaluable—not just for reflection, but for transformation. When you pair it with a powerful visualization known as The 2 Dimensional Postcard, you tap into your deepest truths to map out a future worth striving toward.

Somewhere along the road of growing up, many of us absorbed a lie: that life is a pass or fail test. You're either doing it right, or you're doing it wrong. Success or failure. Approval or rejection. We internalize this binary thinking early—at home, at school, in relationships—and it follows us quietly into adulthood like a shadow. But the truth is: real life happens in the gray. And that’s where the grace is.

There’s a significant difference between acting confident and with a persona and genuinely feeling confident. Often, we’re taught to “fake it ‘til you make it,” adopting a confident persona in the hope that the feeling will eventually follow. While this method can be a helpful starting point, it can also create a disconnect between our outward behavior and inner emotional state.

As we explore the presence or potential presence for “Expectation and Obligation” in our lives, use the Tool of Invitation.

When individuals are caught off guard, feeling back into a corner, they are very unlikely to actively listen or participate with sincerity.

Team ADHD, card-carrying member. There is nothing more frustrating than the past for me; I am a "Team ADHD" card-carrying member. “You...

Consider the presence of internal dialogue, self deprecation, and cognitive distortion as opportunities to learn and grow.

The repetitive and monotonous airplane directives from your friendly flight attendant instructing you to place your oxygen mask on your face

10 to 15 minutes daily, with review of your process after 2 weeks of Notation, Processing, and Actioning, to see if it works for you.

Recognize unintentional isolation utilizing The Tool of Self Awareness. Utilize this recognition to meet your needs and experience growth.

Action and Inaction can both occur with or without intention. Recognize Old Mental Muscle surfacing in the form of Speculation of Outcome.

Get to know your Passengers in your Car of Life; that or those that are present based upon you historical or recent past, and find growth.

When we remain silent regarding our needs, in this case how we best learn, we present risk for Judgement of Self & External Conflict.

Insight into the necessary transition from parent/child to parent/adult child relationships to maintain healthy balance.

The Tool of Self Awareness